This is a message to everyone out there. Anyone who has had a rough go, anyone who has had it easy. This is for anyone and everyone who is aspiring to achieve something, to be something, to do something or to have something. You already are & have whatever it is you are shooting for. The key….
Just Be You.
Yes, you – you saucy thing, you! The key is to stop aspiring to be someone you look up to, they are who they are and you are someone else. Someone completely different who has a whole host of other gifts to give and lessons to teach; someone else who is gorgeous, smart, talented and healthy. We all do it, don’t we? We see someone who has got it goin’ on and we start dreaming up what life would be like if we had ____ or if we could do ____ like so ‘n’ so does. Well stop it. Just cut it right the F out.
Be inspired, gather ideas and new knowledge but always be sure to incorporate it into YOU. Self fulfillment comes from only one place & I’ll give you a hint, that place isn’t from somebody else. Let me give you an example.
When I first started reading blogs, finding Foodgawker & platforms just like it – well I was hooked. People sharing food and food stories, some of the most amazing food photography and styling. It was like a fully loaded eye buffet all for me. Me. Someone who doesn’t like the term “foodie” but lives eats breathes food, nutrition & new ingredients. I wanted to have a beautiful blog, somewhere that people would find attractive food and actually share in my recipe creations. I wanted to have blogosphere friends, I wanted to be inspiring, to connect and be part of the community. All of the blogs I was reading seemed to have that connection, that friendship or at the very least a kinship between creatives. I wanted that. I wanted to be them, and with that I lost track of my own voice and what kinds of messages I have to share. What gifts I have to give. I kept thinking that if only I could be like so ‘n’ so I would be a real live blogger. Reality check to me – do you have a blog? Yes. Well then you are a blogger.
It isn’t a new practice, it isn’t some new idea that has just surfaced – it’s just something that you start to own once you’ve found another piece of yourself. That example there, the realization which I had around the time the blog was 1 year old – that yep, I have a blog. It’s not a baby blog anymore, it is a full on extension of me. Well that was pretty earth shattering. Coming to find that I had a creative outlet that has the potential to inspire others, that serves as a platform for me to continue learning all on my own & at my pace. Well it was a powerful time.
I urge you (yes – still you, sweetness) to just be yourself. Whatever it is you want to be, or do, or have. Whatever you’re dreaming up & imagining in every waking hour. You’ve got this. You are stunning gorgeous beautiful, you have an unwavering spark, you’re creative and let me tell ya – the world needs you just as you are.
- Write on your mirror in the bathroom, on a sticky note somewhere you will see it often, or set reminders in your phone – tell yourself this “I love & I am loved. I am amazing, inspiring & creative and can have/do/be absolutely anything I can dream”
- Take time for yourself every single day to do what YOU love. You’re busy, I know but 30 minutes of self time is a necessity. Whether that means going for a walk outside, cooking up a storm, dancing your butt off or reading a book. Whatever it may be, do it on the daily.
- Write a list of the things that make YOU happy. Write a list of the things you DO that make you happy. Compare the two, and remedy as needed (it is my experience that the two lists rarely match).
- Be gentle, be kind, be you.
In celebration of you, and of me, and of everyone – here is a super easy mega tasty salad that comes together in a snap. It can be elegant enough for company, while simple enough for a lunch on the fly.
1 Loaf of Sourdough
2 Tablespoons Grapeseed Oil
3+ Large Tomatoes
1 Lemon – zest & juice
Fresh Ground Pepper & Smoked Sea Salt
Brazil Nut Goat Cheese
Olives, Caperberries & Sundried Tomatoes – as desired
Preheat the oven to 300, cube the sourdough and arrange in an oven proof dish. Drizzle with grapeseed oil, spinning the cubes to get at least two sides glazed with oil. Season with smoked salt & fresh pepper. Bake for about 20 minutes, then flip and bake for another 5 or so. Watch them, for some ovens 20 minutes may be a touch too long.
While the bread is crisping, slice the tomatoes and arrange in a bowl. Zest the lemon into a bowl and set aside. Add the olives, capers and sundried tomatoes then juice from the lemon. When the bread is done, arrange it in the bowl & top with lemon zest, more fresh pepper and nut cheese.
Smile, you’re beautiful.